Donna Shin Wellness Coach


How to Transcend the Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse

Transcending the trauma implies that you must use the trauma to learn from, transform, and actually rise above it to your next level of inner growth.  Often, this is spiritual growth. and growth in your character and education. In fact using your faith and trust in the Divine, as an asset, to transcend will help a great deal.  Or, the suffering may even lead you to reach higher than you ever have.

However we experience the Divine, we are all praying to the same God. I am a spiritual Christian and had I not been able to tap into God’s grace to receive strength during those confusing, exhausting, and frustrating days of my own journey through emotional abuse I may have not been able to transcend it all.

Not only has my pain, and that of many others, been transcended it has been redeemed. The abuse by the disordered narcissistic can transform you into a woman, or man, with deeper strength, confidence, and character. Whether it be from a parent, a pathological partner, or both— the hurt runs deep.

There are so many scriptures and philosophies that emphasize the positive changes that come through suffering. These are promises that can give hope and light to see you through to the other side where true integration of all that happened occurs.

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to eternal glory in Christ, will himself, restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.~ I Peter 5:10

Nothing is wasted if we use and surrender our sufferings.

Firstly, you must know how prevalent trauma is with emotional abuse. An astounding 95% of survivors will have some symptoms of trauma while 50-75% will have full blown PTSD or C-PTSD.

Listen to your body. Some symptoms of trauma are experienced as:

  • feelings of confusion
  • anxiety
  • shame
  • guilt
  • powerlessness
  • low self-esteem
  • fear
  • insomnia
  • chronic stress
  • health issues
  • depression
  • social withdrawal
  • loneliness
  • moodiness

Emotional abuse is an assault to your soul, mind, heart, spirit and body.  AND the lessons learned as you begin to say NO to the abuser and YES to you, create self-love, deeper ways to practice self-care and well being. These are absolutely in alignment with the mental, physical, and spiritual health Divine Love wants for you.

To get to transcendence and redemption from emotional abuse you have to ask for help  — earthly and spiritual. You must use all that is coming up in you to actively do your work. The effects of trauma are deep and a professional trained in working with trauma is necessary. Talk therapy does not reach the parts of the brain where trauma resides. Often grief needs a guide and a trained listener to help you reach new perspectives and shift the pain to the next place of awareness and into acceptance.

Transcending the trauma is not for the faint of heart but with faith, trust, great support and your determination all things are possible as you stay focused on God’s love letters to you instead of your problems — one step at a time.

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned, the flames will not set you ablaze.”     ~ Isaiah 43:2

Now, let’s get to work!

With light, love and strength,

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